Be Our Guest… Proper Wedding Etiquette

Before the Wedding:

1. Save-the-Date and Invitations:

   • Send out save-the-date cards well in advance, especially for destination weddings.

   • Wedding invitations should be sent 6-8 weeks before the wedding date.

2. RSVP:

   • Respond to the invitation by the specified date, indicating whether you will attend.

   • Be honest about your attendance to help the couple plan effectively.

3. Gifts:

   • Send gifts to the couple if you can't attend the wedding. Otherwise, bring the gift to the wedding or send it shortly after.

4. Registry:

   • Respect the couple's registry choices when selecting a gift.

   • It's okay to give a gift not on the registry if it's thoughtful and personal.

During the Wedding:

1. Punctuality:

   • Arrive on time for the ceremony and other events.

   • Avoid leaving early unless absolutely necessary.

2. Dress Code:

   • Dress appropriately according to the specified dress code on the invitation.

   • Avoid wearing white (unless the dress code specifies it) to not overshadow the bride.

3. Ceremony Etiquette:

   • Turn off your phone or switch it to silent during the ceremony.

   • Avoid taking photos unless it's explicitly allowed.

4. Seating Arrangements:

   • Respect the seating arrangements and find your assigned seat.

   • Wait until the couple invites you to visit their table if they have a sweetheart table.

After the Wedding:

1. Thank-You Notes:

   • Send thank-you notes promptly, expressing gratitude for the attendance and any gifts received.

   • Couples should send thank-you notes within three months of the wedding.

2. Sharing Photos:

   • Ask for permission before sharing photos of the wedding on social media.

   • Use the couple's wedding hashtag if applicable.

3. Respect the Timeline:

   • Adhere to the timeline of events during the reception, including toasts and speeches.

   • Respect the couple's wishes if they choose not to have certain traditions.

4. Congratulate the Couple:

   • Offer your congratulations to the couple during the reception.

   • If you have a message or a toast, keep it positive and brief.

5. Reception Etiquette:

   • Be mindful of alcohol consumption and your behavior.

   • Participate in the festivities and dance, but respect the couple's preferences for activities.

Remember, the key to proper wedding etiquette is thoughtfulness and respect for the couple's wishes. If you have questions about specific expectations, don't hesitate to ask the couple or their wedding planner.